I always want to be a better mom. I read books about parenting. I talk with my friends about raising kids. I seek advice from women who have been there, done that. All in an effort to become a better mom.
Sometimes, though, when I'm reading those books or talking with my friends, I feel a sense of "I'll never be as good of a mom as (the person in this book, my friend, the woman over there in the grocery store wearing make-up and shopping with two well-behaved children)". Despite all my striving and learning about how to be a better mom, I fail all too often.
I miss the teachable moment. I run out of patience. I yell when I should whisper. I simply do the wrong thing at the wrong time. And I feel like I failed. I want to do better, to be better but it all seems too difficult, sometimes.
When I feel like this, I know that I can never be a better mom by myself. I need two things: God and community. I need God to fill me up. I need Him to lead the way. I need His strength and wisdom if I'm ever going to be a better mom. I've tried it on my own, and on my own I'm a miserable failure. Psalm 31:3 says, "Since you are my rock and my fortress, for the sake of your name lead and guide me." That's what I need. I need God to lead and guide me on this motherhood journey. When He's in the lead, and I'm following, I find that I can be the mom I need to be because I'm not leading the charge -- God is.
I also know that to be a better mom, I need community. I need people around me who are slogging through the trenches with me. I need other women who can offer encouragement, who can hold me up in prayer and who can offer advice. We all need these women in real life, women who can hug us, watch our kids for us and take us away for an evening. But we can also get some of this support online.
Today, I encourage you to hop over and check out The Better Mom. This is one of my favorite sites, and today, there's a great post on building your own community. All the articles on their site are thought-provoking and practical. From what to feed your kids to how to build community to decorating to giveaways, your sure to find something you like at The Better Mom. Check out their Facebook community as well to find other women who are right where you are, working to raise kids who are following Christ.
We all need God and community to be better moms. This morning, spend some time with God and call a friend. I promise you'll be a better mom because of it.