Every summer, my girls and I spend a lot of time together. During the school year, the girls are gone most of the day. Our afternoons and evenings are often filled with activities and sports. The time we spend at home during the school year is pretty small compared with the time we spend at home together during the summer.
Inevitably, my girls have trouble adjusting to spending so much time with each other. They squabble and fight until they get it figured out. But the biggest trouble we have adjusting to our summer schedule comes in controlling our words.
And I don't know about you, but I get tired of listening to them bicker. I cringe when I hear the words they sling at each other without a thought. This summer, we're placing a focus on choosing our words wisely. I've already informed my girls that talk that tears each other down isn't allowed in our house. If I catch them slinging hurtful words at each other, then they will have to go sit outside because those words aren't allowed in the house. Besides the fact that we live in Kansas where summer days are hot and humid, this lets them know that hurtful words are not OK.
I'm also placing visible reminders of what our words should look like around our house. Check out today's free printable poster for your own visible reminder. These reminders help my girls think about their words before they say them. It forces them to ask these questions: Is it kind? Is it helpful? Is it encouraging? Does it build up rather than tear down? Is it appropriate? Will it make the situation better or worse? Does it benefit those who listen?
Our words need to measure up to the standard of Ephesians 4:29, which says "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." A visible reminder helps your kids measure their words before they say them.
When your kids' words don't meet the standards of Ephesians 4:29 either sit down with them and talk about which of the criteria their words didn't meet or let them fill out a What's Wrong with My Words sheet. While they're sitting outside, they can identify what was wrong with their words and how they can change their behavior next time.
Don't spend the summer listening to your kids bicker. Get a handle on those tongues and make this The Best (and most peaceful) Summer Ever.
Just getting started on planning your summer, check out the start of our The Best Summer Ever series. Have friends who want in on the fun? Don't forget to share the series with them.