Speaking of that 9-year-old, she's had a lot of questions lately. Questions about God, heaven and faith. She's really struggling to understand who God is, whether He's real and why it matters. Growing up in a home with Christian parents doesn't guarantee your kids will never have questions.
We want our kids to have real faith -- faith that gives them roots and holds them up in the tough times, faith that won't be blown away when the winds of life are howling around them.
For some kids, faith comes easy. It's not a big deal to believe in a God they can't see. They accept the Bible at face value. They have no trouble believing that God loves them and would send His Son to die for them.
Other kids have to dissect it all, make sure it makes sense, then make a decision to believe or not. Much as we would like, we can't force our faith on our kids. They have to choose to follow Jesus on their own.
If you have one of those questioning kids, one of those kids who has to dissect it all before he can believe it, don't overreact when they start asking questions. Pray hard for your child. Hit your knees and stay there for a while. But answer those questions the best that you can. Don't be afraid to say "I don't know" or "I'll have to look that up." Don't make their questions out to be abnormal or frustrating for you. Let them know that everyone has questions.
My younger daughter and I are going to be working through "Case for Christ for Kids, Updated and Expanded (Case for... Series for Kids)" by Lee Strobel. If you have a child who is struggling to understand Jesus, then I encourage you to check out this book. Lee Strobel was a journalist who set out to disprove that Jesus was the Son of God. He actually discovered enough evidence for Jesus that he became a believer. His "The Case for Christ" for adults has been a classic of Christian apologetics for years. His book for kids brings that information down to their level.
Don't let your kids' need to question their faith send you over the edge. Keep the tone gentle and let them ask questions. If we hide from their questions, they might decide that Jesus won't stand up to intense scrutiny and turn away. Keep them talking and keep praying. It's the best thing you can do to keep their faith from being blown away with the first strong wind.