Day 17: Time

Welcome to the 25 Days of Giving. Each day we’ll focus on a different way you can teach your kids to give to others. If you missed the start of this series, you can find it here. Put the focus on giving instead of getting at Christmas this year because Jesus was a gift to us. Join in the fun by reading each day, then posting in the comments ways that you help your kids give to others at Christmas. Don’t forget to share this series with your friends on Facebook, Twitter or Pinterest.

My younger daughter is 9 1/2. She weighs nearly 70 pounds, and she still likes to sit in my lap. Yesterday morning, I was eating breakfast and she decided it was time to snuggle. With my spoon halfway to my mouth, she climbed in my lap at the kitchen table.

A few days ago, I would have shooed her away and told her to wait until I was done eating. Having dealt with death nearly constantly for the past week, I didn't protest yesterday. She climbed in my lap, I hugged her tight and finished my breakfast around the puff of curly hair in my face.

If I've learned one thing in the past week it's that we don't know how much time we're going to get with our loved ones, so we have to make the most of the moments that we have. Whether you're telling your almost 87-year-old grandma goodbye for the last time or mourning the loss of your 6-year-old son, the sense is always that there wasn't enough time. We'd give anything for one more day.

Psalm 90:12 says it best: "Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom."

So, yesterday, our giving calendar asked my girls to give me the gift of time. It asked them to choose an activity to do where we would spend time together. It ended up that my older daughter and I spent copious amounts of time working on her homework together as she struggles to catch up from missing a week of middle school. My younger daughter chose to play a Wii game with me. (I got beat.) The point was not to win the game. The point was to spend some time with my daughters. The point was to enjoy the moment and bask in the love and joy our families bring us.

I'll be honest, I've done a terrible job of making time for my husband and kids in the past few days. There's so much to be done this week. But none of that stuff really matters. What matters is that my family knows they are loved. What matters is that my kids know I cared more about them than the fingerprints on the window. What matters is that my husband knows he is a bigger priority than the Christmas cookies. What matters is making the most of the time we have because we don't know how much more we're going to get.

Choose to use the minutes in your day well today. Love on your kids. Make time for your husband. Kiss them goodbye and tell them you love them no matter what has happened in the minutes before you walk out the door. Because time is precious, and we just don't know how much time we're going to get.

Linking up today with Time-Warp Wife.