Why Questions are OK

questioning When I was in journalism school, the professors had a mantra they liked to repeat over and over again to get us to check the facts in our stories: "If your mother says she loves you, check it out." It was a reminder to us to not take anything anyone said as the truth. We needed to investigate it for ourselves.

That seems like a pretty skeptical way to live your life, never taking anything at face value, but what I've discovered as I've answered countless questions as a mom is that questioning something helps us to better understand it and make that knowledge our own. Asking questions helps us to learn to think for ourselves and to make better decisions.

That even applies to our faith. One of my girls is a questioner. She has questions about everything. She wants to know how things work and why. She doesn't just want to take what you tell her at face value. She needs to find out whether what you're telling her is true.

As parents, we can get tired of answering questions, and we can get concerned when our kids start questioning their faith. We can start to fear that they will walk away from all that we have taught them, all that we believe.

But the truth is, the more questions our kids ask about Jesus and God, the more they will make their faith their own. We don't want our kids to place their faith in God simply because we do. We want them to have a relationship with God because it's what they choose to do. If our kids only follow God because they're following what we do, that faith isn't going to last long outside the walls of our homes. However, if our kids ask questions and sort out their beliefs on their own, they'll be much more likely to follow God in the long run. And that's our goal.

Don't be afraid of your kids' questions about God, even if they seem like they're questioning what you know to be true. Help them find answers. Help them ask God to show them the truth. Give them the tools they need to solidify their own faith.

Because God is bigger than your kids' questions. He's not afraid of those questions, and we shouldn't be either. If God is who He says He is, then the questions of a child pose no problem for Him.

Think about Job. He spent a whole bunch of time questioning God. He didn't understand everything that was happening to Him. Yet God didn't shy away from Job's questions. He didn't cut Job off. He simply reminded Job of who God is. He reminded Job of who was in control.

So, let your kids ask questions. Let them sort out who God is and what kind of relationship He wants with them. Give them the freedom to find the answers to their questions. Because God is big enough to handle it.