I received a review copy of Women are Scary from Family Christian along with an appreciation certificate. The opinions expressed here, though, are entirely my own. This post also contains affiliate links.
Women are scary.
When I received a book with that title from Family Christian, I wasn't quite sure what I was going to find inside. Women are scary? How? Why?
What I found inside was truth I needed to hear about investing time and energy in relationships with other moms -- because women are scary.
We like to think we're friendly and welcoming -- not scary at all. But is there anything more intimidating than being faced with a roomful of women that you don't know?
We've all been in the position of being the "new girl" whether it's new to the neighborhood, new to the church, new to the school or just new to the playgroup. And when you're the new girl, it can be hard to make friends.
That's why Melanie Dale's new book Women are Scary: The totally awkward adventure of finding mom friends is such a great read. We can all relate to how difficult it can be to find friends, especially the kind of friends who are going to stick with you through the puking kids, the years of no make-up and the hair-raising teen years.
Melanie breaks down the hows and whys of mom relationships. With amusing stories from her own adventures in "mom dating," she perfectly illustrates how hard it can be to make friends and why they are worth it. Melanie outlines how to take a friendship from first base to home plate (or fourth base in her not-quite-perfect baseball metaphor), and she helps you recognize and overcome the struggles along the way.
By the time you get done reading Women are Scary, you'll feel like you've just had a cup of coffee with Melanie Dale. I read a lot of books, and this is the first book that has ever compelled me to send a message to the author. Her wit and sense of fun come through on every page. She's also a Doctor Who fan, which makes her ultra-cool in my book. (If you're a Doctor Who fan, pay close attention in Chapter 17.)
Melanie's message boils down to this: We all need friends. We need friends with whom to walk this crazy road of motherhood. We need friends who will lift us up, pray for us, laugh with us and cry with us. We need friends who love us when we haven't showered in three days. We need friends who will simply show up in the midst of a bad moment.
Melanie sums it all up like this: "We need momlationships because they help us to be brave. They give us strength to stick up for our kids when they're drowning in school, to chase the dreams that glitter like diamonds nestled in our souls, to fight for truth and justice for the kid down the street or the kid across the world. They remind us that we're not alone, and we're doing a good life's work."
Melanie walks you through the bases of a mom friendship -- from the awkward first meeting to the fourth-base friendships that create a safety net of love around us. She even covers how to deal with a mom friendship breakup. One of my favorite parts of the book, though, is when she focuses on how moms can be a force for change in the world.
If you're struggling to round the bases of a mom friendship, this book is a must read. If you already have a good group of friends, this book is still a must read because the truth that's found within its pages is so dead on that every mom can relate. While the book is clearly geared toward moms with younger children, I found a lot to appreciate and apply to my own life as the mom of a tween and a teen.
And, really, anyone who can get a Dalek from Doctor Who and the Death Star from Star Wars on the same page as some God-spoken truth deserves to have her book widely read.
Women are Scary goes on sale on March 24, but you can pre-order a copy here. Be sure to enter the giveaway for a $25 Family Christian appreciation certificate, which you can put toward your own copy of Women are Scary.
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