When Mom Can't Fix It

We like to say our younger daughter marches to the beat of her own drum. She's a square peg in a round hole.

She is precious and funny and fabulous. But so much of the time, she just doesn't fit. I wake up a lot of mornings wondering if I'm failing this amazing child that God placed in my care.

If you have a square peg/round hole kid, there's so much that you just can't fix about the world. You can't make the rest of the world change to accommodate your kid. You can't force people to see what you see. You can't make the struggle to "fit" any easier.

And every year, you think this might be the year that he or she fits in just a little bit better. This might be the year that they find their tribe.

And nearly every year, you watch their hearts break as they get left out of a party or an outing. You watch them struggle to find a group of kids who accept them for who they are. Your heart breaks as they struggle to be who God made them to be while the world tells them to be something else.

And you come to the realization that you can't fix it. You can't swoop in and fight the battle for them. They have to do it themselves. They have to make the decision to be exactly who God created them to be.

But, I'll be honest, as many times as my knees have hit the floor for my march-to-the-beat-of-her-own-drum kid, I have asked God why He doesn't make it just a little bit easier for her. Why doesn't He provide that tribe? Why is it just so hard?

And I've come to the conclusion that the only things we can do for our square peg/round hole kids is to love them right where they're at. We have to be their biggest cheerleaders, the tear moppers and the safe haven.

And we can pray. Pray without ceasing. Even when it seems like those prayers go unanswered. Even when the world seems bent on forcing our kids to fit a mold they just don't fit.

Because God is there. He loves our kids so much more than we can. And he has a plan for that precious child. He made them to march to the beat of their own drums for a reason.

We just have to love them and hold them and smooth the path for them until that plan comes to fruition. Then we'll get to see just how perfect that beat they march to is. 

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