A Message for My Daughters

My 11-year-old daughter came home from school the other day sick at heart. For the first time in years, she had changed the way she wore her hair to school. Some girls promptly made fun of her. A couple of girls trying to be funny and “cool” had shattered my daughter’s self-confidence and ruined her day. She cried most of the afternoon and evening. It broke my heart.

It also made me think about what I want my daughters to know about themselves, so I came up with this “Message to My Daughters.” I thought I’d share it with you today.


You are a masterpiece. God says so. Anyone who says otherwise is wrong.

You are loved. I love you. Your dad loves you. Your grandparents love you. Your sister loves you (even though sometimes she doesn’t act like it). Your friends love you. Most importantly, God loves you.

Be yourself. There’s no one else in this world like you. No one who has exactly the same talents, likes and dislikes, or personality as you. No one can be you as well as you can. Don’t be afraid to be yourself.

Don’t let others define you. People will say mean things. They will want you to be like them. They will try to take away your self-confidence. Don’t let them. Be who God created you to be, not who someone else tells you to be.

Stand up for what’s right, even when it’s hard. Most of the time the easy road is the one that follows the crowd, even if it’s wrong. Be strong and courageous. Don’t be afraid to choose the right thing, even when your friends are choosing the wrong one.

Know how to recognize the truth. The world is going to feed you all sorts of lies about beauty, money, self-worth and relationships. Don’t believe them. Seek God, who is the source of truth.

You will make mistakes, and it’s OK. No one is perfect. When you mess up, pick yourself up and get back in the game. Learn from your mistakes and move forward.

We have your back. No matter how bad the day, how mean other people are to you, or how hard the choice you have to make, we’re behind you. We are always praying for you. Home will always be a safe place where you can heal your wounds and be encouraged.

You are a gift. Our lives would not be complete without you. We thank God every day that He gave us you.