Why Mom's Attitude Matters

photo credit: design blossoms

photo credit: design blossoms

There are 13 days left of school.

13.

13 more mornings where we have to get everyone up and out the door.

13 more mornings of scrambling for homework, gym clothes, lunches and clean clothes.

13 more "You can do this" pep talks.

I'm not sure there's been a year when everyone in my house has been more ready for the school year to end. The home stretch of this school year has been a tough one for everyone. My younger daughter is simply done with middle school and is ready to move on. My older daughter has struggled through a tough high school soccer season while battling multiple illnesses. This is also the season of the year when I have big deadlines for some freelance work. This momma is tired.

I really want to go to bed for about three days. I don't want to help with another school project. I don't want to cajole another kid to get their homework done or to get themselves out the door in the morning. I don't want to go to another doctor's appointment. I want to buy a plane ticket and head to the beach, sit in a chair, watch the waves, read a book and drink a cold drink.

But neither the calendar nor my budget allows for that trip to the beach. We have 13 more days to get through. And in thepast couple of months, I've rediscovered that more than anything else, my attitude determines how our days will go. If I have a poor attitude about life, about school, about work, about my husband's long hours at work, then my kids will have a bad attitude about those things, too.

You know that old saying, "If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy"? It sticks around because there is truth in it. As moms, our attitudes matter. If we're tired and crabby, then our kids will be tired and crabby. If we're always critical, then our kids will be critical. If we meet the day with a smile and a quiet spirit, our kids will learn to meet the day with the same.

The underpinnings of our attitudes as moms should be joy. We are daughters of the King. We are beloved children of God. When we focus our feelings of worth and well-being on those things, we find joy. And we can spread that joy to our children regardless of what is going on around us.

Romans 15:13 says, "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." When we let the God of hope fill us with joy, we can then overflow with grace and joy on those around us.

My prayer for you this morning is that no matter how many days of school you have left, no matter how dark the day you're walking through is, that you will find joy. When kids disobey, when toddlers throw tantrums, when teenagers roll their eyes, we can find joy. Because our worth is not found in how our kids behave or what they achieve. Our value comes from our relationship with the God of the universe.

When we find that joy, when we allow it to fill us up, we can pour it our on those around us -- even if we can't get that trip to the beach.